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How to Manage Moving Out for The First Time

So, the time has come; you’ve decided to move out and start your own life.  

It can be extremely difficult to move out mentally. It’s a new fresh start to move out of your guardian’s house, and it means letting go of your past. Despite how difficult it can seem and feel, it is healthy for your mind. You will have a lot of freedom. Every decision is now yours, and you are responsible for everything yourself now. 

This article is going to help you in many ways, from preparing mentally for your move, to the positives and negatives of having full responsibility.  

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It can be a daunting experience, but once you have moved out, things should get better! 

Why You May Want to Move Out 

Before delving further into the topic; you need to understand the groundwork of your need to move out.  

There are numerous different mental issues at home that can affect your need to move: 

  • Toxic environment 
  • Unsafe 
  • Outgrowing home 
  • Too much responsibility 
  • General attitude to move 
Toxic Environment 

You may be living in a toxic environment; this could be the people you live with or just the general environment itself. This can be unsafe for your mental health and can lead you down a dark path if exposed to it for a long time. It can also affect future social situations if you are around people who do not allow you to be yourself. 

Unsafe 

Your home may be unsafe; this is particularly worse if any siblings, or other residents steal or make life even more stressful for you. This will make you never feel comfortable or safe in that residence, but once you have moved, that negativity is sure to cease.  

Too Much Responsibility  

It may just be that you seem to do almost everything at your home despite not owning it, and not having the ability to decide on aspects of the house. It may be much better to just move out so you then have the same responsibility in your own place.  

General Attitude To Move 

Or simple enough, you may just want to move out to start your own life with your own family someday. It doesn’t always have to be a negative situation that forces you to move out. Especially after university, or working, as you will have the mentality, experience and money to move out yourself someday!  

How To Move Out 

You can move out by using multiple sites online, like: 

Or even local estate agents which will almost always have places on display in windows. 

Usually, one-bedroom places would not be a lot of money but always make sure you have enough money to pay the bond and rent before applying to them. You don’t want to be caught by surprise expenses.  

A furnished location will generally be suitable for someone without a lot of money but it means you don’t exactly own the furniture so you need to be more careful. 

It may also take quite a heavy impact on your bank account due to having to furnish the location, if the location you apply for is unfurnished, with whatever you like but it will be worth it in the end. 

Read Now: 7 Ways to Ease Financial Stress and Manage Your Money 

The Housing Association  

This is an association you sign up to and they will find a place suitable for you to live. It isn’t a guaranteed place but over time they will ask you to go to viewings and they may decide to let you move in there or not.  

It is a council-funded residence so it will be cheaper than a normal location from an estate agent but the drawback is the long waiting list.  

Gathering Supplies 

The thing about moving out is that you can bring whatever you like but don’t forget the essentials; usually, you bring a lot of clothes, a bed, and sort out the basics like electricity, gas and water before moving in. Some people may want to move out ASAP to not have to deal with living at home any longer and some may choose to wait it out for a couple of weeks to get it all set up. It is entirely up to you! 

Mentality to Move 

Mentality is key to being able to happily move out, it’s important to look after it when moving out for the first time. You may not feel 100% ready and that small inkling of regret or overthinking may creep up on you while you are thinking about it. These feelings are normal. It is just your brain realising that things will change once you move out and it can be scary but in a way hopeful.  

Your new home will be yours, and everything within it will be based on you. You may have new routines, and more freedom but obviously, more responsibility within the house in terms of cleaning.  

You have got to learn that every story starts somewhere, instead of you being part of someone else’s story, you are now in control of your own story. Being in control is healthy for your mind and soul.  

Read Now: How to Overcome Your Negative Thoughts 

Only move once you are ready.

 

Positives and Negatives to Moving 

Obviously, there are both positives and negatives to moving out.

Positives:

  • freedom
  • make your own routines
  • no distractions
  • independence
  • privacy

Negatives:

  • rent
  • bills
  • loneliness 
  • responsibility
  • household chores 

Even though these may seem outweighed, it is great to keep these in mind for when you are thinking about moving out or not.  

Don’t blindly jump into the deep end but analyse how you can deal with keeping yourself afloat and getting out of it eventually. 

Other Residents (Pets, Roommates) 

Luckily, there is a workaround for the con of loneliness; This is fixed by moving in with someone, or something. You can move in with a roommate, a partner or a friend as well as bring pets if the residence allows it. It is always great to have friends, and people around you to not feel alone in your thoughts.  

Someone else around the house can also help cheapen the bills, and help with housework but you share the house. So, choose who to move in wisely! You don’t want to end up back at square one. 

Read Now: Why Friendship is Important for Your Health 

Animals are a great morale booster no matter how small or big.

Conclusion 

Hopefully, now you can deal with the thoughts of moving out easier and know that you aren’t alone in your thoughts. People go and have gone through the same situations as you almost every day. It is normal to feel like you are attached to your home and can’t leave but eventually, you need to start your journey into life. 

If you have any further queries, then please contact us here at Ceed today! 

How to Get Out of a Funk

Sometimes you just feel unlike yourself. Maybe you feel disconnected from the people around you or you find yourself having an “off” week. Typically, we call this situation a “funk”. However, experiencing brief periods of feeling low isn’t always cause for concern.  

To be human is to get into a funk from time to time. It isn’t something to be ashamed of. We all have our rough times, when we feel stuck, depressed or just discouraged. Things just feel bigger and heavier. The way funk manifests itself in our lives is subjective, but we all do experience it. Some last days, while others last weeks or even months or years.  

To be human is to get into a funk from time to time.

A funk can hit you at any time. Perhaps when you least expect it. If you find yourself in a funk, the good news is your situation is only temporary. The first step to getting back to your best self is recognition. And… you’ve already made that step by visiting our page! We are here to help you take the action needed to beat your funk and see positivity return back into your life.  

Here some helpful tips and guidance you can always take to get out of a funk. 

Break the Routine 

Every day we do things without thought. Brush our teeth, eat the same food, watch the same thing on the telly. Having a routine isn’t necessarily a bad thing. It can help you stay organised and be productive.  

However, exercising habitual behaviour can cut you off from feeling and put you on autopilot throughout your day. You may find yourself in a funk. We’re all guilty of sticking to a routine. But mixing it up could provide us with more than just a little excitement…  

Ways to Break Your Routine 

  • Take a different route to work: We tend to take the same way to work every day, and for good reasons; the shortest, least stressful, takes you past your favourite coffee shop. However, if you’re finding yourself in a funk, taking a different route to work is a simple way of getting you out of the same boring routine. 
  • Cook a new recipe: Spice up your life… and food by cooking up a new recipe. Explore new ingredients. Try new flavours. Start simple and see where you go from there. You don’t have to be the best chef in the world. Cooking is an activity that should be enjoyed.  Blast away your funk with the opening of a hot oven.  
  • Take on a new hobby: We spend far too much time in this life worrying. Having a hobby allows you to take a break from your day-to-day obligations.  By doing something fun, you are able to take a step back from your busy life while also having a sense of purpose.  Do something that you love or have always wanted to do.  Open up your mind to new ideas. The possibilities are endless.  

Make a Gratitude List 

When you’ve fallen into a habit of negativity it can be hard to break out of it. However, sitting down and making a list of everything that you’re grateful for really helps you to remember all the good in your life. Remember to get everything down on your list. Doesn’t matter if its big or small!  

Listing what you are grateful for can have a huge impact!

If you’re struggling with writing this list, think of things as simple as having food to eat or a bed to sleep in. The objective of this list isn’t to impress people; it is to change your mindset from what is lacking in your life to what you still have that you can appreciate. 

Do More of What Makes You Happy 

In other words, have fun! One of the most obvious ways to happiness is to do more of what makes us happy. When you choose to do what makes you happy, you instantly build your confidence. You are telling yourself that you are worthy and deserving of happiness. And nothing motivates people more than the feeling of happiness.   

Compile a list of things that make you happy. This can include such things as: 

  • Seeing friends 
  • Listening to your favourite song 
  • Going to a nice restaurant 
  • Gardening 
  • Playing with your pet 
  • Treating yourself to a gift  
Put your happiness first and do more of what you enjoy!

Remind Yourself that Feeling Low is Normal 

Occasional sadness is very much a normal part of life. Our brains have been wired to believe that we’re not supposed to feel bad, instead of knowing it’s ok not to feel our best sometimes.  When you’re having a tough time, you’ll probably notice your mood reflect the challenges you’re facing. This is normal. Our feelings and emotions are supposed to change in response to our experiences, good and bad. 

Your feelings are valid. Remember to remind yourself of that. 

Seek Professional Help 

What’s the difference between passing sadness and depression? 

Most people feel sad at times. It’s a normal reaction to life’s challenges. But sometimes these feelings can stick around for a while and if left unaddressed can have severe consequences. The difference between sadness and depression is that sadness usually passes with a little time, while depression lasts much longer and can appear without any specific cause. 

Symptoms of depression include: 

  • Continuous low mood 
  • Low self-esteem 
  • Having no motivation 
  • Increased fatigue 
  • Anxiety 
  • Changes in appetite and weight 
  • Reduced interest or pleasure in activities once enjoyed 

If you think you might be suffering from depression, you can get help Here. 

Professionals can guide you through tough times in your life.

And… Breathe 

Concentrating on deep breaths helps you to disengage from distracting thoughts and sensations.  Deep breathing is one of the best ways to lower stress in the body. By doing so, you are sending a message to your brain to calm down and relax. Breathe your way out of a funk and try some breathing exercises today!  

“To change your life, you have to change yourself. To change yourself, you have to change your mindset.”- Anonymous 

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